This post was also inspired by a friend. (I’m looking at you Kayli.) You see, Kayli and I became friends this summer at swim team. I also have another really good friend at swim team, who’s name I won’t disclose because I don’t know if she’s okay with it, but Kayli keeps telling me how I need to mention her in one of my blog posts. So, here it is, Kayli. 😉
Anyway, Kayli and Swim-Team-Bestie (you’re another Swim-Team-Bestie, Kayli, but since I’m using your name, you get to be called “Kayli” rather than “Swim-Team-Bestie”) are two friends that I made all by myself. By using my words and personality.
Now, I’m not really an introvert, but I’m not a major extrovert either. I have trouble being in a situation where I don’t know anyone. I get pretty quiet.
So, moving and doing all new things with all new people really wasn’t fun, as I’ve mentioned.
But, since that happened, I’ve been forced to develop some social skills.
I did an acting class earlier this year, and I heard one of the girls talking about Doctor Who–I couldn’t bring myself to actually go up and say hi to her, so, the next day I wore a Doctor Who t-shirt. Guess what? It started a conversation, just as I planned, and now that girl is one of my good friends. (I actually kick her butt at Trivia Crack on a regular basis, but no need to brag…)
So, by the time Swim Team turnout rolled around, I was pretty confident in my friend-making skills. I had made friends at school, my dance studio, the acting class…I was basically a pro.
But I still shut up like a clam for the first ten minutes. But then there was Swim-Team-Bestie, who totally opened me up. She was cheerful and talkative (impressive, at 7:00 in the am) and we got to talking, and we’re good friends now and I hope we will remain so even though Swim Team is ending.
Kayli didn’t come until a few weeks in, but she was bubbly and loud and fun, a little crazy like me, and we soon became friends as well.
I guess what I’m trying to say is, no matter how hard talking to people and making friends may seem, you can still do it. You don’t have to say a lot, just start with “Hi.”
It’s not that hard, once you do it a few times. And you may be afraid of embarrassment, but it rarely ever happens. Besides, even if it does, two seconds of embarrassment is much better than two months without friends, just because you couldn’t bring yourself to talk to someone.
If I could do it, I guarantee that you can. 🙂